buggered my chances

[angelise2116]

Hi Just a simple theoretical question... Im a 21 yo mum, I follow supernannies rules and read her books, I tend to all my babies needs, I could never qualify as a childcare worker or a security guard because i have a record because of my child hood history of violence, drugs and breaking crime. I will always blame myself but i also blame the society i was brought into and influenced by, I moved to NSW from Brisbane, to change my ways, get away from bad influences and start a brand new non violent, all legal life, but no matter what I am now and have become (4 years later) My past still haunts me by stopping me from being accepted in certain job proffesions.. My question is what do you think and feel about that

Thank you
Angel

[Genuine NSW Guy]

hello to you Angel my name is Bruce and im 42 years of age and i live in albury and i have just read your story and i feel very much for you and would do any thing to help you out my mobile number is 0439279399 please just text me and i will call you back as i need to talk to you because life is about helping each other out

[ineedyu]

stick it out

[Barbie22]

STOP COMPLAINING AND GET ON WITH IT... I KNOW IT'S HARD I AM 22 NOW AND HAD MY DAUGHTER AT 17 TO A VIOLENT MAN WHO HIT ME ALL THROUGH MY PREGNANCY AND THEN I BECAME AN ICE ADDICT FOR 2 YEARS ONE DAY (AFTER LEAVING HOSPITAL FOR THE 5TH TIME FOR HAVING MY HEAD SLAMMED INTO THE GARRAGE DOOR) I THOUGHT F*CK THIS, I'VE HAD ENOUGH, I PACKED MY DAUGHTER WHEN HE WAS ASLEEP AND AT 3 AM I RAN AWAY, I MOVED TO ADELAIDE STOP MY ICE ADDICTION COLD TURKEY, FOUND A JOB AND RENTED A HOUSE, PUT MY DAUGHTER IN FULL TIME DAY CARE, STUDIED (ALL WITH OUT HELP FROM ANYONE ONLY PARENT PAYMENT FROM THE GOVERNMENT) NOW I HAVE A DIPLOMA, HAVE BUILT A HOUSE, HAVN'T HAD DRUGS IN 2 YEARS AND MY DAUGHTER IS ABOUT TO START SCHOOL!!! I KNOW ITS HARD WITH A RECORD BUT IF IT REALLY ISN'T "YOU" ANYMORE THEN PROVE IT AND DONT LET IT HOLD YOU BACK!!!!! THINK OF YOUR CHILDREN AND GET ON WITH IT!

[manxchick]

Hey Barbie

bit harsh with the stop complaining bit and get over it......but i know where ya coming from

Chickie you really need to get ya self back to school, TAFE courses do set you in a great path..... i have been there with no love no hope etc etc and returned to school, earned a diploma and now have an awesome job..... and i dont get or need help from anyone and havent either for 21 yrs.


good luck.... stay positive, dont dwell and nah it aint easy for me to say..... i really have had a fu%%ed up life but i drive forward.

[nards]

There will always be people out there who judge you for your past mistakes especially people who don't even know you no matter how hard you try. They will just assume you are a failure and not good for anything. You just have to persevere and keep telling yourself and your child more than anything that you can overcome your adversities and move forward. You've got your child now so that should really be all that matters. So you haven't really buggered your chances it may just take a bit longer.

[angelise2116]

Hi this is the poster here, umm dont get me wrong guys Im not complaining more like waiting for someone who know a loop hole around it or ppl in the same position and your advice or opinions on this matter.
Just ta let yas know i do realise I have a light at the end of my tunnel, I have many goals and ambitions and I will get there no doubt. Thankyou again for replying and letting me know what you think. xo

[bellagirl]

hi angel, aboslutely in the same position, most people looking atme would never know what i have gone through, i have three kids and am 27 years old also at univeristy studying my bachelor in applied social science majoring in psychology and the fact is i probbably can not finish my degree, most likely actually ill not finish it because i do have a criminal history record and it needs to be clear to get placement for work which sucks what can we do

[nanny missy]

Dear Angle,
First I’d like to say WELL DONE! As much as you may not feel it at the moment, you have done so much to help yourself to get onto the right path. To admit you have had a problem with violence, crime and drugs, and move away from everyone that influences you in a bad way, is one of the hardest thing you can do. But you have done it!!!!!!
I agree with you , that everyone is a product of their environment, but it takes a very strong person to stand up to that and say enough is enough and walk away!
It must be very frustrating not being able to work in the fields you would like to work in (Child care and Security) But there are some many other fields you can work in.
I also agree with many of the others who have replied to you about going back to school.. …BUT…
Before you start doing courses, you should get in touch with company’s like ‘Work Ways’ or ‘Mission Australia’, they have programs to help ones to retrain and get work in fields that you could work in. A lot of the time the training is free or cost very little if you are on a Health Care Card or unemployed
Asking for help is NOT a sign of weakness! Asking for help show that you are humble and willing to help yourself .But please just ask the right people, not one who are out to pray on the weak!
You are young and have you whole life ahead of you, yes you have made bad choices in the past, but don’t keep putting yourself down. Learn from the past and move head.
Keep reading books to help yourself with your child, ‘Supper nanny’ books are good but remember that a Childs behaviour is a window into how they are feeling at the time. The stress and pressure you have felt or are still under, can effect a Childs behaviour immensely . So keep that in mind when giving timeout or taking beloved toys away. (I am a nanny, and have been working with children for 10years now.)
If you want a listening ear or advise with child behaviour feel free to email me at hello_from_missy @ hotmail.com

Look head….. keep trying ……. and don’t give up!

yours sincerely
missy

[weeowen]

Depends on what was done - for some things, the vicitim is not likely to have forgotten either.

[kenquid]

In the states and Canada, mums to be can have a non medical 3d ultrasound done in non medical centres.
These are done at around 18 weeks onward and give a very clear image of the baby.
The centres are quite lavish and cater for family groups, so that all the family may see, and hear the new babies heartbeat on a large screen in full colour.

The cost is from around $100, for slightly more the mum gets a disk with the images on it and hard copies.

I would be most interested to hear what mums to be (and their family)think about having a 3D non medical ultrasound.

Cindy

[go-tigers]

All excellent points angel, also spare a thought 4 the victims this is true. As a professional in this area it is true you are excluded from many jobs (government and police never an option this is true) but there are many charities with more open policies which MAY overlook your past if you can show what you have done substantially to to prove you have changed. Do some charity work for a few years for free and with the right intention firstly and your may be able to get a WWC license and I would look more to specialising in Drug and Alcohol counselling specialising in youth if you like, youth work and telephone counselling. But it is important that to be a professional in this area you have professional counselling also (many free options avail) also look at career counselling and work on all parts of yourself holistically as you will need this to be in order (healthy body, mind and spirit) in order to help others and be a role model. Just because you need a police check doesn;t mean it has to be clear but you need to be able to justify why the organisation should take a risk with you if it isn't.