Couple looking for friend with benifits - possible?

[FulMtlMitch]

We know the ad's sections probably the best way to advertise us, but we're just asking opinions here.

Is it possible for us to have a 'friend/additional partner' who we can catch up with and have a good time on a constant basis. Like, a girlfriend or boyfriend for us both. We dont know how else to explain it. (our relationship) + other entity.

Anyway. We have talked about it, and its not gone further than 'maybe - it might work'

We love each other very much. there is nothing that anyone else can offer us sexually or emotionally. Except another body to cuddle up to and watch movies with.

Do you think this will cause strain on the relationship, and one of us running off with our new partner? or do you think that this could actually work.

...anyway. We are in Perth - let us know.
thanks.
M + M

[timandu]

Hey fulmtlmitch I am in adelaide and my girlfriend and I have been trying the same thing. I havent had much luck but she has what ever she wants. that has put alot of strain on our relationship. i'm jelous. she involved me with everything she done and we were so happy. she promised all the same for me. now she stopd cos it startd to hurt me that she was doin that and telln me she wasnt yet ready to let me. cos she had the opinion i would leave her. but i stuck by her. now she has started to give me the opportunity to do it too and it has been hard for me to find women that would do that with a guy that is open about having a partner. so she now wants me to just stop before i have even tried. this hurts me cos it now feels like she cheated on me. the idea we felt together was that we both wanted another partner together to enhance what we had. mainly us with a guy, us with a girl regulary like friends with benifits. but we decided cos it was hard to find genuine people at the begining that we could have 1 on 1 with other people and if they wanted to be with my partner aswell that was ok. this didnt happen she had many guys that didnt care and she had all sorts of adventures without me and didnt ever allow the same back. now as my feelings are very mixed about my girlfriend and the person she is she now says sorry but i cant be with you and i'm moving out. i feel i was there for her when she was happy doin it and now she doesnt want to help me thru when its killing me the jelousy distrust. she was always very honest and still says she loves me but wont be there for me when i need her. basically this story is saying i believe it is possible and i still want it to, but if it is starting as a thing you both want together then talk lots about everything every feeling and possible thought. then when you both are clear not to confuse what the other partner wants. then you both can look at what is possible for both of you. meaning, if she finds a guy or girl that is interested in her and is willing to be a friend with benifits then begin with that, and stop till he gets the same. otherwise you may find it might happen for one and not the other then everything changes too quickly. best possible idea is to not begin until you both have met someone each and only continue if you both are getting the same. our dream got so complicated till now but simply it needs to be fair for both to avoid jelousy. both of you need to first see if there is someone else out there for both that would be interested in this kind of thing. i hope this is a help for you and it doesnt put you off the idea. its just my experience may not be the same for you, maybe for me its like this cos im not good at meeting people and it affected it from the start, maybe we didnt talk enough or start together cos i let her begin first. i dunno but i would also like some help for us to stay together and enjoy this amazing experience. with alot of prework it is possible. hey maybe you could stumble into it just like any love, but to us its sex and friends not love so it needs prework.[/quote]

[daloni11]

Hi All
I reviewed what you all said, Im in the situation where im married but looking for a couple (M/F) with benefits as Id like to try it for the realisation of what its like, but you know ive tried for six months and havent had a reply.
There are people out there like me who are in just for the sex because they are not being satisfied as home and look for something else .
I think that if you are both in agreement that it is only sex and not for the love and the boundaries are set and communication is free flowing then I dont see a problem with it.

Good luck in finding what you are looking for, hopefully you have better luck then me

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[all4thegoodtimez]

Hi there,

i am 19 yr old young woman who has had many experiences in which you are looking for I am more often than not the "third party"
I dont know what else to say here but if you would like to get in contact with me email me at sharniedwards@live.com thanks guys and good luck in your search. cheers

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[phantomxr6]

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[bingaling]

hey,

there will be alot of emotions going on if you either want sex and/or to cuddle up with someone to watch a movie. if you satisfy each other sexually then the benifits you seek maybe emotional?

maybe you are seeking a more open and expressive male/female who you can cummunicate with on a deeper level and who is on your wavelenght.

if either of you is seeking something that you are not getting from the other, then you should make that clear beforehand,
if either of you is missing something but dont know, the best course of action is to cummunicate with each other honestly and openly before the friends with benifits ball starts rolling, it could go tits up for your relationship as you know it.

if you guys are sure your love is strong enough for this then you have to weigh up the pros and the cons.
maybe you both want a break for awhile subconsiously and havent been open about it.

if you are both wanting to do this for kicks then what happens, do you the female hang with your benificial friend in the company of your partner and do you the male do the same, what about calls when you are alone together? its a tricky business that i dont think either of you would want to be in if you both feel satisfied with each other, and i'm not talking about the physical but the emotional side, the companionship side and the spiritual side.


the choice is yours and you will have to remember that whatever happens, good or bad you both made that choice. have fun,play safe.

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[spacystacy]

I have been the "third" person. I am lightly Bi. I have wanted just what you described, To be a girlfiend to a couple. The couple didnt do the cuddly thing outside of sex(on their instigation mostly) so when not being sexual i felt like an distant acquantinace, not a girlfriend. ( i guess that my have something to do with there personal 'rules' of protection for thier relationship, or pehaps I was not the right gal for them, am not sure). I think it is a difficult thing to get ok for all three. How much to share?, how much to include? this is a very interesting topic and i could contribute more and would love to see ore contributions form others, from all sides.
thanky for bringing it up

[weeowen]

[king_donkeyboy]

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[Libran Luck]

So I guess I wanna know; did it work out, did you go ahead with it? I guess we have thought of it as a couple for some time, but body image is an issue. Don't get me wrong, we're not unattractive or anything, it's just that people have different ideas of what is acceptable. I guess you could be more explicit in your add what you are looking for. It's hard to work out if you fit the bill if you just randomly say "looing for friend with benefits" most people are porbably unsure if the fit your criteria unless you provide some. Good luck, I will read on with interest.