so much for sole Dads rights

[alana09]

not all females/mothers get away with smacking there child , but i was given an intervention order by the courts for smacking my step daughter aged 18 , she left home and stayed with friends 1st 6 weeks and was told to leave , then she went and stayed with another lot of friends and lasted 3 months after she had smacked/kicked a 13 year old female and then left to stay with other friends .

wheres my justice in this as a father i am a sole dad and have my 8 year old under my care as we the mother (of The 2 girls )and I are seperated but my teen daughter stayed under my roof , has 2 part time jobs and did not want to do her chores/ or support all i asked for was $20 a week , so she abused me mentally and physically , no way was i going to stand there and cop it, so i smacked her back on the back side twice in front of her mother .

why is it that a mother who smacks a 4 year old child with a wooden spoon get away with charges ( As this was on the news )

[srjc]

unfortunately there is a law there but if i not mistaken the one you smacked is 18yrs she is now a adult and has the right to have charges laid on whomever has smacked her, the same goes for you if she smacked you, you couldve had her charged.
not been cold hearted but if this is how your daughter treats you, maybe you should try shutting the door, maybe its time she learned the world does not revolve around her.
yes i do have children 5 of them and the oldest 19yrs

[alana09]

[srjc]

realistically if you put a call in for police assistance they must provide that service, (it is what they are there for)
laws are there to protect the people they must apply the law

[kidd house]

Hi, I'm a parent myself - so I know where you are coming from.

Why as a parent did you tolerate physical & verbal abuse from your daughter in the first place?

While a smack can have it's place when a child is not of an age to be able to reason with( yes, I know many would argue to differ on that statement) ......to feel that you as a parent has to still resort to a smack when they are of an age of maturity means communication & trust has been lost along the way.....

As a parent it is important to lay firm, consistent but loving principles, guidelines and house rules......It's often exhausting, frustrating and requires discipline on a parent (because we have to walk the talk) but extremely rewarding long term.

It is also although heartbreaking to stand firm.....if that means a girl/guy of 18yrs needs to move out and forge a future of their own, then that may be what is required for them to learn the hard way.

Society pressures have changed the rules on parents, what is acceptable, what is practical and at times we as parents wonder if we have any rights left at all.....

But in the end a loving parent will do the best they can & if things go wrong, you know in your heart of hearts that you did the best you could and it's up to the child (now an adult) to face the consequences of their own life choices.......

However, if you as a parent and let's face it you know that you haven't done your best. When things do finally go off the deep end, it is not just the child's fault but ultimately you as their parent has to live with the blame & both (parent/child) have to own the pain of guilt & regret that goes along with it.

AH if only children came with a journal/manual of HOW TO HANDLE ME......

[srjc]

AH if only children came with a journal/manual of HOW TO HANDLE ME......[/quote]

if only, what a dream that would be

a answer for those moments that scare us when the kids come home with mom i got to ask/tell you something

when times are tough and the kids are against you in every way,

when the tears start and they wont/cant say why

the first date + the first breakup how do we deal with these


the truth is every child is different, and no book if ever one could wright such a book would help everyone, we just have to ride the roller-coaster of life until they grow up leave home and have kids of their own, and then we can sit back and watch them go through life as a parent, and when they ask "how did we ever do it" we can tell them "the hard way no-one ever wrote a instruction manual for kids"

GOD BLESS ALL OF THE CHILDREN